If you trust your partner, why search his phone? While some people are very confident going through their partner's phone, i would caution against it. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. I believe privacy is important in relationships, that's not to say you can't express curiosity, doubt or suspicion, if that's what your feeling. If he tells you his going for a quick drink and comes back four hours later, you have the right to ask about it. But the upkeep of constantly monitoring someone's goings and comings sounds arduous not to mention doesn't necessarily tell you everything you need to know.
I tried that once and i didn't like what i found. I couldn't ask him then he'll ask me why was i snooping. To be honest he has all rights to be mad at me whether or not he was caught flirting with someone else because i invaded his privacy. Because i was looking for something which i found by the way, i hurt myself in the process. You know that saying "what you don't know wouldn't hurt you". I'm not suggesting that we turn a blind eye to our partners pretending that the possibility of infidelity does not exist, far from it. I'm merely suggesting that there are better ways to determine whether your partner is being unfaithful.
The bottom line is, if you don't trust your partner, that's a problem. It's natural to be curious, who isn't but taking the curiosity beyond the bounds of what your partner would be comfortable with crosses a line that could be dangerous for your relationship not to mention your mental health
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